Why do couples divorce?

The obvious reasons of financial discord, children, and sexual difficulties have taken most of the blame for court action. My book explores fifty reasons for taking this action. Since initiating divorce proceedings has taken on new meaning, the court dockets are filled with "irreconcilable" filings. For most couples, "getting out" marriage looks as easy as "getting into" one. This has resulted in quick marriages as well as quick divorces.

What are some reasons you have found for divorce?

Marital boredom, loosing all hope of understanding a mate's behavior while selling yourself on the idea that "mates are just a mystery" starts the explanation of marriage failure. Add disappointment, conflict, anger, long days and short nights brings even more pressure to cope with today's unrelenting duties to keep a marriage in tact.

What are the major factors in preventing divorce?

In order to slow the divorce rate down, individuals need patience to begin a search for long-range happiness. The forces driving the divorce rate are: society approval, decline of sexual mores, quickness in divorce proceedings, greed, selfishness, children's demands, and material worth over spiritual contentment.

What are some traps couples find when divorcing too soon?

To touch on just a few, think about these: 1) one mate will buy more things than the other; 2) my problems will be solved once I get rid of the drag on my life; 3) everybody is happier than I am; 4) if I can only quit work, then life will be more enjoyable.

Can all marriages be saved from the divorce dilemma?

Unfortunately, the answer is: No. Many couples have spoken too many harmful words in disgust or lost all trust in a mate. It is my finding that once a bridge is completely burned rebuilding is too difficult for those already harmed by "the ugly side of marriage."

What can be done to avoid the unfortunate end to a once happy marriage?

In order to avoid an un-happy ending to a once happy marriage, the couple must seek help immediately to stop the "ugliness" before the unkind words are unleashed. Speaking out of anger causes permanent hurt to fragile relationships. If the couple sincerely wants to keep the relationship alive, then have a third party negotiate the terms for both parties.